Why Am I Being Bullied?

Here's some surprising things about why you might be bullied.


Does this describe you?

Research has shown that young people who are bullied often have these common characteristics and beliefs.

Targets of bullying can often:

  • be intelligent
  • be creative
  • be successful
  • be optimistic
  • be empathetic
  • be diligent and conscientious
  • strive for perfection
  • be idealistic and incorruptible
  • be courageous
  • be loyal and honest
  • be trusting
  • be dependable, helpful and selfless
  • be reasonable and slow to anger
  • be tolerant and forgiving
  • be quick to apologise
  • be non-violent
  • have a sense of humour
  • have an ability to think long term
  • have an ability to master new skills
  • have a desire to always think well of others
  • have high coping skills under stress
  • have an unwillingness to lower their standards
  • have a strong well-defined set of values
  • have high expectations of those in authority
  • have a dislike of incompetent people in positions of power who abuse that power.

Some people who have been bullied believe the negative messages they are hearing and feel ashamed.  They need to be supported to realise that the bullying is not their fault.

They can:

  • be self-deprecating
  • be indecisive
  • be deferential
  • be approval seeking
  • be unassertive
  • be dependent
  • be naive
  • have difficulty saying no
  • have a tendency to internalise anger rather than express it.