I'm Being Bullied

Being bullied can feel awful. There are some important things you should do if you are being bullied.

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Talk to someone

You're not on your own. There is always someone who can help. Bullying will probably keep happening unless you tell someone about it.

  • Tell a teacher or someone at your school. It doesn't matter where it happens - in school, out of school or online, teachers want to stop bullying when they know about it.
  • Tell your mum or dad, one of your family, a grandparent, friend or someone else who you know will listen to you. Ask them to help you work out what to do

If things don't get better after you've told someone, tell them again or tell a different person.

Keep a record

If bullying is happening on your phone or the internet, keep messages and posts that hurt you or write down what happened and show an adult.

What else can I do?

It might take a while for new things to start working so don't give up if things don't get better right away. There are some important things you should do if you are being bullied:

  • stay positive and be confident
  • think about positive things:
    • what you like doing at school and away from school
    • what you are good at
    • the people who like you and care about you
    • friends away from school (eg. sport or drama).

Try some things yourself

  • Tell the other person 'I don't like that'.
  • Use a strong and confident voice. Even if you don't feel strong and confident, fake it!
  • Talk with the person who is bullying you (if you think it's a safe thing to do). Ask them if there is a problem that you might be able to sort out together. If you feel too scared to do it alone, ask a friend to come with you.
  • If possible, ignore the 'person' who is bullying you. When a person is ignored they often lose interest in continuing the bullying. If that doesn't work, tell someone and ask for their help.
  • Don't try to get back at the person who bullies you. It usually doesn't work, and you can end up in trouble too.
  • Hang around people who help you feel good about yourself. Friends don't bully you. They care about you and are fun to be around. You might also make new friends by caring about others.

If bullying happens on the phone or internet

  • Don't respond to the message.
  • Tell your mum or dad, one of your family, a grandparent, teacher, friend or someone else who can help you work out what to do.
  • Ask for help to put a block on your mobile device or social networking page so you don't get the bullying posts or texts.

More information

For more information, see: Advice Sheets

If you're being bullied and you need to talk to somebody, you can call Kids Helpline